Usually when the BS wants to speed it up the WS suddenly wants to slow it down. If not, so be it. I like your new attitude. Much better on the soul when you just let it go.. It really isn't worth all the constant wondering, worrying, fretting and and on and on and on... Seek peace in your life. Not drama. Let her see you really moving on. This is part of it.
She wants a divorce.. Give her one. No biggie.
You will feel better about yourself and you may very well see a change in her attitude once YOU start taking charge.
