It's hard to keep some distance though, but I feel like if I don't he'll think I'm okay with all this.
This is exactly why confrontation and exposure has to be handled so carefully.
The confrontation should be solid and reveal consequences.. not as a threat, just as a wake-up to where he's going if he keeps on the same course
What i can gather so far is that you confronted him, but he just sorta walked away from it and nothing got resolved right?
Infidelity confrontation should be handled very much like an intervention for any other addiction... tough love from square one
You need to get a good confrontation script together and an exposure script. You do the first one to read to him and the second to read to your exposure base.
You need a support team you can trust to apply some pressure on him to end his affair too, and whom you can talk to.
Is it safe to assume the OW isn't married? You don't have these details in your sig...
It's a bit tougher when the OP isn't married, but you have a strong history, chidlren, a spouse afraid of exposure, possible guilt overwhelming him... lots of good pressures to drive him home again if you want...
