You apologize in whatever way you can work it out... but I really think she saw you controlling her there... heck I saw it in your post.. she was in the ROOM... I doubt she missed it at all.
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- support something she supports (180)
Do that without pursuit. Remember the idea... show her you are a good guy without pressuring her to see you directly
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- opportunity to spend time with her in a social setting
Again you gotta take what she gives you and otherwise back off.. particulary with a history of love-control or whatever it was in the past... you gotta find a way to accept the time she gives you and accept the time she wants alone...
Why don't you just go to her work and take your buddy there out to lunch? that makes YOU look social but it doesn't get in your wife's face at ALL. She won't like it, but we can work on that later... it may be worth the cost there... if you play it cool enough... do NOT look for her when you are at the building, do NOT ask for her... don't even mention her... just show up to talk to your friend and then go to lunch... i think she will be ok with it
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- show her co-workers first hand, that I am not a bad guy and get the opportunity to meet those she works with as she did with my co-workers.
see above. But bear in mind you can't force yourself on her or these people.. she will introduce them when she's got some respect back for you... you gotta trust that
Just keep up with the ones at her work that you DO know now and let the rest just happen on its own time... don't force it
