Isn't it strange, that as soon as we get what we thought we wanted (WH's saying they want to be with US), that the whole playing field shifts again? And then we don't know if we want to be with them? We do, but the hurt and betrayal rises up, and how are you supposed to deal with that? Especially when THEY don't even understand that we are feeling that?
Anyways, that's normal. You said that he was reading "after the affair", it will help him understand. It's great news that he's reading that.
As for the rest, it takes time, you know that, deep breaths, try not to react to anything too quickly!
If you reread your posts from even just a few days ago, you'll see just how much change there is this weekend.
