How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

I re-read my post and pretty much thought about it since it happened and you are right. I picked that fight not even knowing it.

Yes the thought of OM being there did cross my mind. I wanted to go because in the past I would not have went and I more than likely would have prevented her from going (in the past). I was caught off guard that she had made that decision to go and never ran it by me or invited me along. By going I would have accomplished the following

- support something she supports (180)
- opportunity to spend time with her in a social setting
- show her co-workers first hand, that I am not a bad guy and get the opportunity to meet those she works with as she did with my co-workers.

I don't think she would respond very well to me telling her I love her. Is that not pressuring her? I CAN say it without getting those words in return because I DO LOVE HER but I think it will only prompt her to tell me she is leaving. I feel I have not DB consistently enough or long enough to start telling her these things. She also will NOT take kindly to the flowers.