first, not a complaint, but it will save you some time.. update your sig, put in a brief history so everyone can get in the loop quick and help you out... I see a couple threads there, but if you add a summary like many here do it will help you get more input from posters
Second. Relax. He's just run his first shot at damage control. not much surprising there. Do NOT react to his complaints... just make a mental note.
I would just stand firm on your position and avoid any conflict with him. He's still in the INTEL gathering mode... the visit with his parents was a PERFORMANCE
Some of it may be true, most of it is lies.
I didn't read anything in there that wasn't classic wayward script... and he left a LOT OUT that he SHOULD have talked to them about... He claims he's hollow and got nothing left, but he just slept with you a few days ago? I bet he didn't mention THAT to them either eh?
He's Full of $hit... Don't take what he said this seriously.. just relax... most of its just performance... he WANTS you dancing around like a monkey trying to please him.
Keep control of yourself... until he ends his affair you just keep your cool. Don't be mean, just keep your position.
I am interested to hear what FIL and MIL intend to DO now to help support you?
We heard the story he gave them, but what are THEY prepared to do to help out?
3. Lock up your PC... lock it all up. He wants info... the OW calling you was a dead giveaway they are going on the offensive... the first thing you to before you attack is run a recon mission to find out how much firepower the enemy has... Lock up your PC and your phone...
4. The hopelessness claim is classic... don't let him get YOU hopeless. I am confident if you put this whole mess out in the open he will end the affair.
Questions...
You said if I recall that he had an affair before? Did he cheat on you before?
If so, how did that one end? Details may help us understand what drives your H to end his affairs.
If he hasn't had an affair that he ended, if this is his first, this will be a learning experience for you.
