You've got some really good advice, I posted earlier to luvless today and I think I'll probably repeat that same suggestion here.
In addition, yes, to an extent we're all a sitting duck but it doesn't have to be that bad. Like someone already mentioned if you prepare yourself for the worst possible senario but hope for the best then there's nothing else to fear. In my case, I know my W drops bombs one after the other when I least expect them and so I know one of these days she'll say 'I've filed for D, just thought I'd let you know' like she did to me last time. My response will be 'whatever makes you happy sweetheart' and then just go on. Let them have what they so so crave and think is the magic pill...because it's not. D is not the end of your life or even an end of your R with your H. You can always reconcile after if you choose to do so.
Kids wise...yes they feel stuff, there's not much you can do about it other than to give them LOTS of love which you already do...and then they just grow up tough!! What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!
Make a list of things to do, little things and start crossing them off. It feels good to have a purpose no matter how small, you feel useful and you feel in control...again read my reply to luvless it may help. Other than that...hit up some of us on FB and chat! sometimes everyone's gotta vent.
((hugs))
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
