Let me ask you this.. its been a while with you posting here... can you see how your wife might feel you are trying to control her over much?
Now, I get that being married means negotiating, and that to a degree, you own each other... emotionally you are bonded and all that... so a sense of being controlled comes with the package.. but that CAN get excessive and it can cause a spouse to feel pressure they don't want.
Some spouses feel like they don't matter, like the spouse is INDIFFERENT, others like you, may be going the other way and push TOO hard...
I am gonna leave it to you to sort that question out. But if you read your post again and look carefully I hope you can see how you may have tried to control that situation...
If THAT is what you were doing for the last ten years... dude, THAT is EXACTLY what you need to put a STOP TO... right away...
When you do that, you sign your wife's apartment lease FOR her doin that... I really hope you can see it in your post... go look at it...
