Mr Bond I couldn't agree more... that's exactly what I was thinking as I read OIN's thread... before I even read your reply
OIN, I KNOW its hard, but you push yourself back when you do this.
Your wife did throw you a bone afterwards. I suspect she sensed that she hurt your feelings and wanted to apologize... THAT is a good sign, but you need to control yourself... I think you could have handled it better, but your WIFE actually saved that moment not you!
YOU are supposed to be divorce-busting, not your wife man lol
IF she says she's giong to a benefit
1. you offer to buy a ticket for a donation ONLY 2. you tell her if she would like your company, you would enjoy going along, but you want her to make her choice freely 3. You do NOT go around that and SNEAK in with a buddy either.. that's underhanded and she will see that as you controlling her... again 4. you do NOT POUT... you accept her choice and smile... as long as she is not putting your marriage at RISK or herself at RISK then you let it go... she's not going to a singles bar, its just a benefit dude...
You DID walk out of there before it got really bad, but man you set HER up for a fight... not the other way around...
If she does something that excludes you, you just tell her you are available and leave it alone.
Good to see she threw you a bone though.. that's a positive
But you gotta control yourself dude... control YOU, not her... YOU
OK?
I suppopse maybe you were thinking OM might be there or something... but if he changed shifts I think you may want to back off a bit on that.. the more Om backs off, the more YOU need to back off..
Not sure what prompted you to fight for a spot at this thing, but I doubt you think it was worth pushing her at this point...
She threw you a bone, I think you need to buy her some flowers and tell her to just go and have a good time and that you are sorry you pushed her.
Tell her you love her, and want to be NEAR her, but without her RESPECT, her love is isn't worth it...
You give her a hug and tell her to have a great time... and let it go.
