And now for H's reaction to the termite/fungus infestation:
I texted H in the morning to let him know that I'd be having some estimates. After I got the estimates (and signed a contract for services), I texted him to tell him that they had found termites.
He responded, "Well that's one of the things I was gonna do when we moved in but all the money ran out" [I assume he's talking about the small initial sum we got when my mother died. I carelessly frittered this money away on paying for her funeral, the property taxes, and other reckless expenses like the former two.]
I told him that my father (a grown-up who understands this stuff much more than I) had said that it sounded like I needed to have the work done.
H texted, "I had the bug guy come and give a quote and everything but the money didn't last long enough to do it...I'm sure all this stuff your dad feels is my fault cuz I'm the guy but I tried the best I could with what I had"
WHOA! Who said anything like that??
I told H that I don't really remember a guy coming, but it seems vaguely familiar (3 or 4 years ago). I also said that my father didn't think it was his fault. In fact, my father didn't utter a word about it. I then told him that I appreciate all he did to help me and take care of the house.
My father is a man's man, but he's never tried to make my H feel like he's less than a man. What's this talk all about??
Also, I think H has a different recollection than do I of how much or how hard he worked on the house. He's really turned himself into a real workhorse who gave everything his all, all the time. Is rewriting history typical??
