WAS seeing reality?

[v1olin]

This is what I am going to send to my w via email.

Wife,

I need to know what the status is on our divorce. I am tired of waiting and I need it over with. Please respond via email.



What do you guys/ladies think? Is it blunt enough? Detached enough?

[gucci loafer]

No. "I need"... not good...


"Wife, What is the status on the divorce? Let's hurry up. I want this over with. Is there anything I can do to hurry it along?"

Let me know.


Now THAT is detached speaking.

[v1olin]

Thanks Gucci! it does sound better your way! I am sending it tonight to her work email because she will see it almost as soon as I send it.

[gucci loafer]

Great idea..


Let her wonder about THAT turn of events...

[v1olin]

How about this Gucci...

Wife,
I want to know what the status is on our divorce. I want this over with, is there anything I can do to help get it done?

Let me know

[gucci loafer]

That's fine...

Usually when the BS wants to speed it up the WS suddenly wants to slow it down. If not, so be it. I like your new attitude. Much better on the soul when you just let it go..
It really isn't worth all the constant wondering, worrying, fretting and and on and on and on... Seek peace in your life. Not drama. Let her see you really moving on. This is part of it.

She wants a divorce.. Give her one. No biggie.

You will feel better about yourself and you may very well see a change in her attitude once YOU start taking charge.

[v1olin]

Sending it now... thanks for your feedback Gucci.

[v1olin]

Just sent it and actually laughed a little bit when I sent it. Kinda felt good!

[v1olin]

Ok, thinking ahead alittle bit... I want to plan my responses to her possible different reactions to this e-mail.

A. She might ignore it.
B. She might send a stall response, ie. "I will get back to you."
C. She might call me a money loving jerk.
D. She might tell me she changed her mind - YEAH RIGHT:)


Anyone have any advice on possible responses? Being prepared is always a good thing.

[gucci loafer]

A. She might ignore it.

She might. Might not.


B. She might send a stall response, ie. "I will get back to you."


You can then respond and repeat what you told her tonight.

"Wife, hurry up and get back to me. I want to get this finished up as quickly as possible. Let me know by Thursday or I will proceed on my own."


C. She might call me a money loving jerk.

Ignore.. Just repeat back what you told her tonight..
"Wife, I want to get this wrapped up as quickly as possible.
Let me know by Thursday what is happening. If not, then I will proceed on my own. Talk to you later. ta ta."




D. She might tell me she changed her mind - YEAH RIGHT:)

"Wife, my feelings have changed and I don't know how I really feel right now. I just want to get this over with as quickly as possible."


This is how strong confident men handle women that act and show they want out. The strong confident man doesn't chase, pursue or show emotional weakness when a woman backs off. He shows the exact opposite. He shows emotional STRENGTH. "I can handle this. I heard you and you want out. Fine with me. Let's wrap things up quickly."

And this is why the strong confident man usually doesn't lose his wife,but if he does, she comes back.