Unfortunately you can't. It's something that he's going to have to realize himself. Do what you can to show him that you're not the person he "believes" you are.
The thing about control is what all WAS's complain about. They act as if they are this helpless raft that's been tossed around by the LBS. Total BS in almost all cases.
Did you meet him when he was still M? I wasn't sure if I heard right. If so, then he is repeating the pattern of not wanting to deal with his own issues and just wants another temporary "fix" (OW).
Maybe you need to detach. That way he can't blame you for being "controlling". Show your calm, cool and confident side.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
