Need some advice with WAH

[Swiss Miss]

Well Allen, you sure can talk someone down, that's for sure!

I've read quite a bit on the WS forum at survivinginfidelity and it's sure given me a lot of insight into why he's done this and why he's so sure I never showed him any love, etc. Of course I can come up with a myriad of different ways I did just that, but I think he has trouble accepting love sometimes (has a terrible time accepting gifts or even favors, I've come to expect that he might get upset, but then says I don't do enough of those things) and he needs a great deal of external validation because he has no self-esteem. So that makes it easier to accept and I'm trying to focus on that now. Don't worry, I am more than clear about my faults in the marriage, and when this began I took 85% responsibility for the whole thing. Took me almost 6 months but I'm almost down to 50/50.

He called this morning and wanted to bring over some of my son's video games that they took over the weekend. He also had a funny story about S to tell me but I was on my way to work so only had a minute, but then he called since he knew I'd be in the car to talk more about it. I don't know how much to talk to him, I've been trying to avoid him since this latest revelation happened because I do feel uncomfortable acting like pals with the man I'm married to who's sleeping with another woman. It's hard to keep some distance though, but I feel like if I don't he'll think I'm okay with all this.