Don't know if this will help much but in my first marriage. My wife left me with our two girls (3mo and 3 yrs) I found out later that she was addicted to coke but that is another story. But what I wanted to tell you is that when we first split up she wanted to see the girls every weekend. But when the weekend came around she would think of an excuse why she couldn't see them. I made up excuses for her to the 3yo telling her mommy was sick that day or mommy had business to take care of. The 3yo was always disappointed. So I started waiting until the day W was supposed to see them and confirmed she would be there BEFORE I told the girls they were going to see Mommy...
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
