Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans

The woman who was F-ing and going down on my former best friend was NOT the woman I fell in love with and had loved for so long either.

I think it was MLC. : o


But the woman you fell in love with returned??? After how long??? And is your former best friend still alive?? I guess I still don't know the details of your sitch.......I know. It doesn't matter----with respect to where I am at.

I have only recently accepted the fact that the D is going to happen. In order to accept this, I have come to the conclusion that I can't treat H like a friend anymore. I am trying to set boundaries. I am trying to treat this as it is. I can't act like all is fine and dandy----that we are going to divorce and be the best of friends and raise our kids as if we were only living in separate houses. I know this is what he wants...and even EXPECTS, becaue THIS is what he wants.

So.....the last two years of acting like a doormat----trying to keep him as "happy" as possible hoping for his return-----are now back to bite me in the a#@! BUT of course, they were biting me all along as I kept trying to raise my hopes only to have H dash them once again which led to me falling apart....over and over again...I'm still falling apart.....Jack, I'm sure you saw this coming all along. You've seen it more than once.

Newcomers, please learn from my mistakes!!


Me 45
M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08
D 18, D 14, S 12