WAS seeing reality?

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I agree future but when would we know that it is time to start showing kindness if the wife never was an initiater? I mean the reason I am here is because we NEVER talked about our issues. I have been soo focused on not starting R talks I have not even started one since June. I have not told her that I loved her in any way, shape, or form since May.


We always hear about the LBS "leading" the WAS back to the marriage. If my goal was to beat the divorce how is going dark "leading" at all? I am just trying to form a plan here for my final try.