Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Greek, thank you for checking in.

I'm ok with the carpet cleaners. This is a service which I don't think my W or I could do. So I'm Ok with using our joint money to pay for the carpet cleaning. I'm not ok with the house cleaners. This is something my W and I can do. She is unwilling to help out by cleaning so she wants to use our joint money to pay for a house cleaner. I get your point though that I just need to tell her no and I will contact her when my work on the house is finished. That's my plan.

Funny how she doesn't want to help out with the rest of the house work but she is willing to plant flowers. Interesting. I figured she didn't want to come by the house to help because maybe it was too painful for her. However, she is willing to come by to plant flowers. She always did enjoy planting flowers each spring. We would always go out one weekend in the spring to buy our spring flowers together.

Greek, if you get a chance, would you skim through my thread? Your sitch is similar to mine that there was not OM in your sitch either. I would be very interested in what pushed you away from your H and what helped you to give it another try? There is no other person for either my W or me. You can see from my sitch that my company going out of business, followed by my depression and lack of a job, seems to have created this sitch. Wish I could change the past but I can't. So here I am trying to put it all back together. I know gr8 and I seem to have similar sitchs are we could both use your insight. Thank you again.