The countdown continues

[MrBond]

Ouch. Sorry to hear that. Maybe she was in an A herself.

[givingitmyall]

Awoken,

Don't sweat OM's W's reaction. You did the honorable thing. Now that you've discharged your duty, let it go.

Focus on what you can control.

[FindingMyVoice]

Wow, Awoken. That's dreadful. MrBond and givingitmyall are so right. You are a good person - stay focused on taking care of yourself and your kids.

[Sister]

(((Awoken))) Sorry I've been absent when all this was going on!

It doesn't really change anything, does it? You're ready to be done with it. Just figure out how to get her out of the house as soon as possible. You thought all along this was what was happening and didn't really care. Detail shouldn't make a difference. (I know, easy for me to talk.)

Please don't call her parents! They will be supportive of her, no matter what. No matter what she's doing - she is their daughter and they WILL support her.

It must be hard thinking about your kids being there with the OM - especially if they spend time together. Seems like there should be a way to set a boundary about this?

Be strong. Just keep thinking about yourself and making YOUR life better for you and your kids.

((((((Awoken)))))

[givingitmyall]

Please don't call her parents! They will be supportive of her, no matter what. No matter what she's doing - she is their daughter and they WILL support her.

This is absolutely correct. DON'T call her parents. This is a battle you cannot win.

[v1olin]

While she is high on the affair drug it is a great time for you to get EVERYTHING you deserve legally. Get her out of the house ASAP! Stand strong on that one! Get your 50/50 agreement done and SIGNED on. I think you did a great job of confronting her.

[Kimmie Lee]

This^^

I think you did ok and sent your w a bit off balance. Good. Now go for the jugular.

And I say this because she is a drunk with other mental issues. You can't deal with that on any rational level.

Get your fair share and let her crash and burn. I have no doubt that she will because she is in fantasyland.

[Awoken]

It now appears that she has been planning this since at least a year. It makes the common statement here "don't believe anything they say and only 1/2 of what they do" that much more relevant.

One sad but positive side to the discovery of the depth of my W's betrayal: the last ember of hope for my M is now completely gone. No more lagging doubts about "what if" I had done this or that differently, or about what I need to be doing now. It's a shame it took this long. I guess "Awoken" was still asleep (I've always regretted my choice of screen name lol )

I'm really ready to get on with my new life. I'm worried about the kids though.

[givingitmyall]

I'm really ready to get on with my new life. I'm worried about the kids though.

Welcome to the club!

Maybe some closure for you? Time to focus on YOU and the kids and what you can control.

Hang in there, man. It does get better.

[v1olin]

Thats the spirit! YOUR life and your KIDS are what is important now.