Thanks Aver & Kara, Excellent suggestions! Kara, I'll think you'll be proud of my activity, I went Fri. night to watch my brother's band & had a nice conversation with a male acquaintance (he's a friend of my bro-in-law). He's divorced (after 23 yrs.!) Nothing going on there, (believe me I am so not ready for any of that!) but like everyone says it's nice to just have a conversation in a social setting w the opposite sex.
The thing I felt good about was I went by myself, which I haven't really done in the past yr. This is something I often did in my younger days - if I felt like going somewhere, I just went. Mostly a product of my friends being married w kids!
So baby steps for me - breaking out of the cloister!
Sat. more cleaning/purging but did see family & also Sunday, big Easter get together at sisters.
I also looked at my S agrmt. this weekend & realized I dont' have decide value of the house right now.
I don't know why I'm wavering on asking H to pay 1/2 the L fees & more than 1/2 on the cr card debt. WHy does it feel rotten to me? Aver, this is where I feel similar to you in that I don't want my final legacy of this M to be I lowered myself to going tit for tat in the D.
What I keep coming back to is that I need to protect myself financially b/c H is definitely not going to & if I don't ask for everything I think is fair I may regret it down the road. It sure feels rotten though.
I see he took $400 out of the savings, and I am trying not to pay attention but it seems he has not been there since Thurs or Friday. May have taken a little trip hmmmm? With $$ from the savings!
This is why I can't stand being here. NC but yet I'm aware of his comings & goings, something I haven't been for a year. It's intolerable. Detach, detach detach!!!
Ok, What have I always wanted to do? Go to Europe maybe. Right now I'd settle for a trip to NYC, where I have been before, but it's been a very lonnnnggg time. Some type of trip would be good. :-)
I like the china suggestion, very cool. It is kind of fun to shop for dishes, house stuff. Even though it'll be at Target w my budget!
So this coming weekend, more purging, packing in earnest. And something fun, maybe a movie.
I would like to hear about your weekends, too. I hope you're both doing well. Thanks stopping by & keeping that fire under my backside (((()))))
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