I hate to say, but she never was a much of a real partner. She was a bully most of the time in our M, using her emotional manipulation to get her way.
When we got married, we agreed to wait one year before we talked about having kids. One year. About nine months into our M, my W approached me and said she wanted us to start trying. I said "I thought we were going to wait a year." She said "Yes, but might take a while, and I want to be pregnant by the time we've been married a year." So far she was being nice about it.
She came into our M burdened with massive student loans, and I had been trying to get them paid down. That, along with her liberal spending habits, made it financially difficult for me to see how we could afford to have a baby. I told her so, but wasn't getting through, so I went through our monthly budget with her and said I didn't see how we could afford to have her quit work or pay for full time daycare right now. Then she snapped, pushed away my paper, and shouted "You're just a coward!" and stormed out of the room.
Hard for me to admit now, but I sheepishly sought her out, and acted as though I had done some terrible thing and needed her forgiveness. I mean, I must have, why else would she lash out like that, right? She withheld herself, making sure I "suffered" a little, before softening.
That same story was replayed over and over throughout our M.
