All you did Pass was tell his OWN MOTHER the TRUTH... which is more than he has been doing for how many months now? You can hand her that to throw at him if exposure is his best complaint...
Does your mother know this isn't the first time?
This really opens one's imagination up... I never thought about what I woudl say to my son if I found out he was cheating... or to my daughter if I found out she was being cheated on... etc
I never told my parents. They adore him and if we got back together, I would not want that hanging over his head. He does not have the self confidence to believe they'd forgive him.
They'll know if and when we get on track to D. Not until. Sadly, I love my parents too much to put them through this. The fact that I have such amazing in-laws is just enough for me right now.
Yup, its an act of trust and priviledge to marry another, and to be taken into the trust of that other's parents greater even still.
When you betray your spouse's trust, you betray that of their parent's as well.
An even tougher bond to rebuild than your marriage, is that between you and the in-laws you have betrayed as well. They have a lot more objectivity.. and a lot less mercy.
I can certainly understand that being the last route to take. It is powerful leverage, but you have to be prepared to play it only if you really have to.
I just thought as a parent, I don't know if I could give nearly as objective advice as I can otherwise. If my daughter came into my home and told me her husband is cheating on her I would be hard pressed not to tell her to toss him out immeidiately and not turn back... knowing full well the pain she's in. Its a much harder call when its your own kids.
Thanks so much for the vote of confidence. DSD16 and I are alone, DSS16 is at a youth group and DSS20 is working. H is at MIL's and she can not wait to call and fill me in. DSD and I are kicking butt getting the house cleaned, I told her I'd take her out to eat if she did it. She's having a good time. It's the little things that make it all worth while. DH should be done in an hour and MIL will be calling. I'll post to fill everyone in on what was said... should be a learning experience for some of you, the rest will have anticipated the script. Any votes for what it may be? MIL/FIL and I have discussed and either: 1. He's going to say I've had an affair 2. He's upset thinking I told the kids 3. He's upset at exposure 4. OW's pregnant (don't know how I would handle this-but he did say last night that what he has to disclose, we may not be able to get past) 5. He's going to say that I'm violent (I'd say suicidal, but he said it was something I DID that he wants to know if she condones)
Phil McGraw has a good article-show recap on infidelity with pregnancy by the OP... But lets wait to see what H has to say...
The only `side`I can see from your list is his accusing you of cheating or violence.
It is VERY common for spouses who have been cheating or who are cheating to cross accuse - that is, to turn the tables they accuse the LBS of cheating.. its quite common... and no, they don`t have evidence when they do it... they simply accuse.
Yeah, I figure he may accuse me of cheating because it's a script. No one would ever believe that. More likely violence as he's been trying to portray me as volatile. I guess yelling once in a while is volatile. I never met a man so closed off that he NEVER fights with anyone. Half hour to go. I just looked at the clock because OW called and I wondered if he had called her.
DSD16 and I are alone, DSS16 is at a youth group and DSS20 is working. H is at MIL's and she can not wait to call and fill me in. DSD and I are kicking butt getting the house cleaned, I told her I'd take her out to eat if she did it.