Don't get me wrong Ken, Hold me Tight is an excellent book, I would definitely put it in my Top Five... But it belongs on the shelf until the OM is GONE... The Author herself warns you about that.
Honesty is what's missing in your marriage right now... NOT physical closeness...
If you have Physical Closeness but she's lying to you.. You are being PLAYED... played in a very dangerous and hurtful game.