I know we are supposed to distance and detach. But everywhere it is written that to end the affair they are supposed to have no contact at all with the affair partner. So what if having no contact with the spouse makes it easier for them to end it with us?
Think of it likes this...You have had this spring form pan around the kitchen for 20 years. You know that it makes great cheesecake, but you just don't use it that much. Then one day a door to door spring form pan salesmen comes along and offers you the best ever spring form pan for cooking cheesecake. You have to have that pan.....it consumes your thoughts and you buy it....yeah.
The old trusty spring form pan either is discarded or hidden deep in the recesses of your cabinets. So then you go to make cheesecake in your new awesome pan....it makes great cheesecake, but is oh so much harder to use than your old one.
So the next time you might think about using the old one? It was easier, but there is the new one...so we will try again. Same results. Hmmmm....that old pan is looking better everyday, but I did spend money on the new one?
So inevitability the neighbor has a need for a spring form pan and you loan her your old trusty pan....it is gone. Then you go to cook a cheesecake again...guess what....you are going to miss that old pan...the security of the right solution is no longer available to you. You are stuck with the pot smoking high maintenance new model. I bet at this point you would start reconsidering that purchase?
You are the old trusty pan......who has the power to remove yourself from the situation. Let the cook deal with their mess on their own....while you spend some time getting new hinges and maybe a manicure (I mean a new spring).
