On what was to be our final court date, March 10th, H had an appointment he just "couldn't change." He made some half hearted attempts to get a new date, then said, "Well, we could just not show up." I ask him to keep trying to reschedule. The day before, he suddenly has yet another appt. that day he can't miss, & says they may dismiss the case if we don't show, & "one" of us would have to re-file to go forward.
Instead of dismissing, they give us a new date for December, with a note from the judge letting us know that if can't get it together by then...
My mother has open heart surgery & we decide to put anything having to do with our M on the back burner, until after she's had a chance to recover.
Meanwhile, I go for as little contact as possible, OW continues to move in pieces of furniture, rugs, etc., but is not actually living there.
I decide to venture off on my own to a friend's birthday party, much to the dismay of new guy, who tells me he looked it up on friend's Facebook, & see's that address is on there for any friends that wish to attend, so why am I going with out him? We had just had dinner the previous night & I let him know I desired a little time on my own. He obviously doesn't realize the effect this has on someone, which is to want to get away.
Go to the party, & the strange feelings I get sometimes hit me full force when I walk in the door. Not bad, just the feeling that something I can't put my finger on is happening.
Not long after, a man walks up to me & asks if I'm married, well, after a couple of minutes anyway. I say, my H has been having an A for 3 yrs, it's complicated. He says some of those things guys say, "your H must be crazy, you're beautiful, yeda, yeda, yeda..." Tells me what he thinks of Jesse James types.
After talking for a few more minutes, I can tell he feels it too, that strange pinging....Now he's telling me I should get a D ASAP, to move forward, I may be surprised at how fast my H really wants to move on. I tell him I'm not so sure my H wants a D, as he can't seem to show up for our court dates, that's why our next one isn't until December. He has this shocked expression which prompts me to ask his name.
It's her best friend... He get's teared up & tells me she has no idea, she believes he went to court that day & the ink is almost dry.
H came by to drop off S7 after his week long vaca. I met him at the door, didn't offer to let him come in, didn't answer any of his questions about where I was this last week. (He had been having S call me wanting me to call them everyday.) I sent one text, asking him to tell S I loved him & would see him at the end of the week. Friendly, but distant. He looks nervous. Probably because I'm not in his pocket anymore & am happy, one way or another.
Sunny
PS)Why does the text jump around when I'm typing posts...makes it really difficult to work with. If anyone knows.
