As a woman, I find that there's a kind of " If you don't use it you lose it" factor involved.
Saffie:
That actually makes some sense, both in my previous marriage and in my current one. The things you said about cuddled, flowers, child-rearing, etc.are all things that I've heard. My first wife would tell you that she was angry at me because I did not see "being a parent" in exactly the same way that she did. My presence was just a reminder of a past that was no longer valid, in her eyes.
In this relationship sex was never part of the equation in terms of having more children.
I agree that the description of drive issue is really a mismatch. Anectdotally, it seems that the person classified as the HD person is the one that complains. I suggest that the "reversal" you describe is the case where the other partner simply gives up. If not too widely mismatched, communication, openess, and trust are key to resolution. But when one is a no-drive partner and explicit about that, it forces the other, in chess parlance, to either be faced with a stalemate or to resign in the face of certain checkmate.
"But when one is a no-drive partner and explicit about that, it forces the other, in chess parlance, to either be faced with a stalemate or to resign in the face of certain checkmate." -
But is this right? Marriage involves compromise, doesn't it?
