OP & Jack I'm thinking along the the same lines as you are. I'm in total agreement with you. I want him to prove himself to me, to prove his love for me in actions not in words. And I'm not sweeping the affair "under the rug" - sort of speak. I need to talk about it and about him until I'm satisfied. His willingness to talk will tell me a lot about where he is in his head.

Now it will be on my terms. I finally got to the point of moving forward after months of paralyzing agony and I'm not letting him rattle me again. I'm standing firm and waiting what will happen.

I will work on my part as well, I know that I have to guide him and encourage him...and I need to continue working on myself.

Wish us luck, we will need it smile

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO