Despite our prayers and hopes, we can't make them what they don't want to. You have been very strong and forgiving and even supportive of you W throughout all of this. You have rightly taken the high road and are setting a great example for your kids.
I don't think you're a patsy or doormat; you are trying the best you know how to hold together the sacrament of marriage while your W seem fine with throwing it away. Continue to pray for guidance and for your family. I remember you and your kids in my own prayers. They all help, I know!
Of course, in the end, only you know how long you can go on like this. She has to admit her failings the same as you have and want to try again. You can't make her. I know you know all of this, but if you're like me, sometimes I need things drilled into my thick skull several times before I see it for myself. You have helped me with that, believe me!
Continue to hope and pray, but accept the things that you cannot change!
