Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[mza8]

gr8, maybe you were asking your children if they wanted her to go to mass as a way for you to ask her? I'm glad your kids said no. Don't ask W for things like that...it's pursuing. Trust me, there are times that I look for reasons to contact my W. When I have those thoughts, I stop myself and make sure not to contact her. Just be aware of your reasons for contacting W. If it's unneccessary then don't do it right now. Tough to do I know.

Did your W wish you a happy Easter in return? It was a good sign that she was still on the phone. You said yourself that you weren't expecting it. Look for the small signs gr8, sometimes they are right in front of our face. Perhaps she felt comfortable enough to remain on the phone. You did good not pressuring her for anything. The more interactions you can have like that, the more comfortable and relaxed your W will become. I've seen it in my own sitch.

Something I will share with you. For the past few days I have been asking God for signs that my M has hope. I see small signs but I asked God to give me something more substantial. During the homily at church yesterday, it hit me that who am I to question the methods that God speaks to me? It was so weird because just after I had this thought, the rest of the homily talked about the very same thing. That we cannot dictate the signs that we are given. I couldn't believe it. I'm not pushing religion but the message is the same. We look for signs that WE want to see from our WAS. We want to see substantial signs from them. It doesn't work that way. We have to accept the signs that we are given. Even though the signs might be very small (like your W still being on the phone for you yesterday) they are there. Hope this helps you.