It is definitely a learning process, a new way of thinking so to speak. It is the most difficult journey you could be on. If you can survive this you can survive anything.

My post was not to be critical, but to help you not make as many mistakes as I did. Learning from others is the best route to take.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11