luv, have you tried making a list of things you want/need to do and see if you can start crossing them off. It gives you a purpose, it gives you satisfaction and as a side effect helps with detaching a bit. Even if things include 'sit out back and read a book', 'clean the counter tops', feed the ducks at the park...whatever.
The more you think about this stuff the harder it is. I'm trying to do this myself, the book I'm reading has some good tips but it stresses the point that you can't play victim for too long...not good. Take some control, even a little bit and do things. Yes, I know it's harder to do in practice but you can do it!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again