How different has your husband been since the affair started?
If he was horrible before that, then you may be on the right track in wanting out, but if he was a good man and the addiction has turned him into a monster then you are just tryign to escape the addiction, and divorce isnt' necessarily the best course for that. Your son will feel the effects of the two of you parting.
Read Chapter 1 of DR, its excellent for warning you about the impact of divorce.
Think of this much like your son. He's a good boy but gradually you start to see negative changes in him... you find out that he's befriended another young boy at school who is commonly understood as a bad influence.
You wond't send your son off to military school right away would you?
You get RID of the bad INFLUENCE... and understnad how that can impact a good person.
So, you have to assess your marriage long term, not just the infidelity. THAT can be ended in some cases. It does sound like reality is already setting in on your Husband and he realises how awkward this will be.
You've cut yourself off from him and now it looks like he's consdering reconcilliation... Are you willing to explore that?
That's the question here.
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If he wants to be with someone else I don't want to be with him, except for our son of course.
But that doenst' tell us if you are willing to do the work to end his affair (half done already) and explore a reconcilliation with a family therapist assisted program...
