Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

Very well said CG.

It is very true that it will be hard to rebuild a marriage till the addiction issue is addressed first. It is like the elephant in the room.

We have told you here why looking for a few seconds at another woman is bad. You wife has expressed hurt but you seem to minimize this. Please realize that your insight and views are not truth "right" views but rather an another view. If she feels it hurts here- than she has a legitimate gripe. And the reverse goes for you. If you feel that she has hurt your feelings that she should accept that she have- even if she thinks it's no big deal. Does that make sense?


OTMT, You have made tremendous growth. You came here as a man who at first blamed his wife for everything that is wrong in the marraige and could admit to no fault of his own. Then you have realized that you both have ownership in the marital discord and that you yourself have areas that need to be worked on. that is HUGE progress. I know there are many ICs or MCs that would come on and state that many people do not "get it" for years. They can not gain that insight. Great job doing that.

Please put some pictures of you and the family or your wife taped to the computer screens. If you have to look at your family while attempting to view porn I would hope it would be a deterrent.


Also please understand that anything that causes marital strife definitely affects the children. You love your children, right? You want them to have both a full time mom and dad, correct? You do not want to become a weekend dad do you? You do not want them to see a distraught mother or father, right?

What you do towards improvement not only benefits you and your wife but your children's lives also. You have five little ones depending on you. You are their role model. You sons will want to model you, your daughters will want to marry a man like you.


Little one is calling me.

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