WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[mza8]

Hey Ken, checking in with you. I've been following your sitch too. Looks like you've been having some ups and downs too. I'm not sure what to say about OM. I think you've been getting good advice from others on that issue. All I can say is that it appears that most affairs end within 6 months to a year. No question that your W is in a fog.

My advice to you would be to continue to act strong and confident. Don't let her see that it bothers you. She will wonder what's going on with you. She will see it. Try to stay positive in front of your children. If you are sad in front of them it will get back to your W and she will know that it bothers you (her and OM). Don't give her the satisfaction. I have read so many sitchs on here. It really does seem that those who can actually make some progress as the ones who always ahow strength and a positive attitude toward their WAS.

I know what you mean about you going to church and your W not going. Same for me. I go every week and I don't think my W goes. I wish she would. Same with you doing the taxes while your W is not helping. Again, same for me. I'm doing all of the work to get our house ready to sell. W hasn't lifted a finger to help. You're doing the right thing by being responsible for taking care of those things.

I think rob and others are correct that you shouldn't tell your W that you're out there GAL. Let her find out on her own...and she will. My W has commented on things I have been doing. They notice, they find out.

I'll check back later. I need to reread your sitch. You still have time, keep strong.