"You should not be using your son in the middle of something like this. 10 demerits!!!"

You know, in the heat of the moment I thought it was the right thing to do. My intent was just to give her something to think about, since my son heard him make the threat in the first place.

In hindsight, I do see how it was a pretty foolish thing to do. I have a lot of lessons to learn.

When something like this happens, does it re-set the "whatever-positive-progress-you-may-have-made" clock back to zero? Or, is it more like 1 step forward, 2 steps back?