Good for you H4L. Every hour that you maintain dimness is a personal victory for you, and a SUCCESS. In the book that I'm reading, Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, the author emphasizes that our brains actually have a bias towards accumulating negative memories and experiences. So the first step in feeling happier is actively working on "letting in the good". Some of the good can be celebrating one's accommplishments, like yours yesterday (Gno was advising me to do that just yesterday ). Apparently even if you experience a negative event, creating a good experience within a short time period (like an hour) actually changes how the negative event gets encoded in memory.
I know you're hurting a lot...we're all pulling for you.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
). Apparently even if you experience a negative event, creating a good experience within a short time period (like an hour) actually changes how the negative event gets encoded in memory. 
