Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[mza8]

Hey gr8, just checking in with you. You sound like I did for a bit yesterday. After reading several updates of others here, I think it was the Easter holiday that seemed to get some people down. I starting feeling sad for myself yesterday too but I would not allow myself to go there. So I got out and GAL.

Just sounds like you're having a bad day or two. It's normal. When I have those moments, I now tell myself to give myself a day or two if necessary to think and refocus. Seems to work well. The good thing for me now is that I can now recognize the signs of my depression and anxiety trying to creep back in. When that happens I can snap out of it pretty quick now. Tells me that I've come a long way. If I can do this then you can do it. Hang in there buddy, you're just having a bad day.

One of the things my DB coach told me early on was not to focus on the negatives and instead look for the positives. My DB coach said that we tend to only see the negative. She is right. I do see some positives. Yes, it's not moving at the pace that I would like but I have to be patient. At times it seems like my W does something the slightest bit positive but then does something which makes me feel like she is still in the fog. I think it's all part of the process my friend.

Gr8, you even said it yourself last week that you have seen some positive signs from your W. Remind yourself of those positive signs. Remember that things have to get friendly between the two of you before any work on the M can be started. I know you know all of this but sometimes it's helpful for us to be reminded of it. I'm here for you man. You and I will get through this together. We must have more patience with this process than anything we have ever faced in our lives.

I'll be posting my update in a bit. Trust me, I have thoughts lately of my M working or not but I remind myself that this is what I want and I'm not going to give up. Stay strong gr8!