When you bring up your family give details. Your children's names, their relationship wtih their father etc.
Does OW have children btw?
I would list all your financial info for her :
List the total debt and everything like an accountant. Say "if you are after his money, he has none... zero"
Not sure if you had a prenup with him, but if you did mention that too.... You don't need to accuse her of gold digging, just tell her
1. If you want his love, you're a fool, he's used women before, he gets bored with them all eventually
2. If you want his money, he has none, here's our finances
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That way you have a chance of her listening... if you accuse her of anything she wont listen to you.. if you are calm and serious, she won't be nice, but she will be more apt to HEAR what's being said.
If you write it this way you aren't suggesting anything outright... just implying it. YOu need to be gentle... you need to be or she wont even hear you.
