W just tried to call me at home. She doesn't know if I'm asleep or working my part-time job. I am home but let the answering machine get it. She sounded cheerful but wanted to know if the mortgage was underway.
I'm thinking that maybe I should get the refi going to make peace, then DB from there. Besides if we stay apart much longer, I need the refi anyway. But, I really do not want to do it as I see it as a another major step towards divorce.
Maybe get the refi and tell her I do not want a divorce but understand why she does and will not fight her?
