WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

oh wow, yep, "as if on cue". As I was about to post how much I, too, have hope for your sitch, she pulls a stupid stunt like that facebook thing AND tells you she knows it bothers you... BUT... She wanted to "share the whole event" WTH? ..with whom? Why? Etc...a very silly thing to say. Perhaps
It was her way of compensating him b/c she ignored him in public I FEAR...(I could be wrong.)

I had the same thought about "compensation". That she might be worried about what he thought if she posted pictures and omitted the ones with him in them. There are about two dozen pics that she posted with various people and her alone, so the OM pics do not stand out.

I can't imagine he felt very good yesterday, supposedly being a Christian and being an intruder on such a holy family event. Especially given the words he heard in the prayer circle. Who knows what he may be saying to my W behind the scenes.

But I also can see why you might want to shake her and scream "WAKE UP AND SMELL THE TEMPTATION & SEE IT FOR WHAT IT IS!!"...

Yep, I have to fight that, as it does no good. She has to come to that herself.

You'll never ever regret handling yourself with so much dignity, I am sure of that. Keep it up, and prepare to start enforcing boundaries in a few weeks or whenver you feel you can handle it. B/C that will be the test for both of you as far as how long you can remain in this limbo stage. Her event today needs to mean change, or it means nothing good....

Thank you, 25, I do take comfort in that. I have to handle this in a dignified manner and be an example for my kids and others.

I can see how some may feel I'm being played for a patsy, and that I'm a doormat and just letting her spit in my face. I know in my thread I may come off as just a timid man quoting the bible, but I'm really not a bible thumper at all. People who know me personally would look at me like a "tough guy" Clint Eastwood type, as I have posted before. But I have a strong faith, I just don't wear it on my sleeve other than in this forum.

I think the majority of people here do believe in God, regardless of how much they practice their faith. Just look at the example of Jesus. He exhibited EXTREME humility - allowing himself to be ridiculed, whipped, beaten, and nailed to a cross. Can you imagine God Himself, who could have wiped out the entire world with a bat of an eyelash, allowing the creatures He created to treat Him like that? THAT'S the example we're given and told to emulate. Whenever I feel the urge to lash out, I try to remember that.

As far as boundaries, if my W initiates a reconciliation attempt, they will be put in place, and actions such as posting the OM on her Facebook page will not be tolerated. Right now, given we are separated, married only on paper, and not reconciling, I cannot dictate anything as far as regulating my W's decisions. Only those that pertain to family business and the kids that I have direct control over, and we've not had any conflicts in that area.

Every day I have to get up and carry this cross, and endure the pain, knowing that one day I will have my own Easter. But it will be on God's timetable and not mine.

My wife has not filed for divorce, so she is either lazy or conflicted as to whether that is the answer. I'm pretty sure it is the latter, and she won't be getting any message promoting divorce from her new found faith. Now whether she adheres to that or goes her own way is the $64,000 question.