No criticism from me. It's your situation and you have to be the one to make the decisions. If it was the right thing for you, then it's the right call.
On informing OM's W, I believe she has a right to know. If you were in her position, wouldn't you want to know?
But, it's your decision.
Hang in there. You are doing the right thing. Keep reclaiming your strength, dignity and confidence.
