Why Bo Peep doesn't work

[MrBond]

Also, that the GALing "is for you." BS! We are then instructed to show our wonderful GALing selves to WAS to be "the better option."

I think you're confusing the two things. It mentions that GAL is for you. It's to help rebuild your self-esteem which has been damaged by the WAS. We all know what that's like. It's not exclusively to "be the better option". If it does bring back the WAS, all the better.

Quite frankly, I'm not sure why you believe that DR exclusively means to let the WAS treat you like a doormat. It's figuring out what creates the most positive behavior from the WAS and doing more of that. What works for one person may not work for another.

That's why the first thing MWD says to do is to create the list of goals and go through with following them. DR is not a specific 'to do' list of things to do that will get your spouse back.