The latest with me

[alice444]

I got most of the things done yesterday:

1. Day 2 of hunderedpushups.com
2. Do the laudry
3. File taxes
4. Wash the truck
5. Warm up the motorcycle (haven't ridden it for a while)
6. Read the new book 'how to get over a relationship in 30 days'

Okaaaayyyy... So where's the fun in your life? If you actually rode the motorcycle, you're off the hook, but this is all errand/chore stuff! I went to a movie by myself a couple weeks ago cause there was no one to go with, and it was kind of liberating...

when I saw a restaurant on the way home and started reminscing about how we ate there the first day we moved into this house/neighborhood about 2 years ago etc. Hope DD's having a good day with her mom.

Seeing those "happy" families sucks. Though, there are some who thought we were one of them, so you never know...

1. W's b.day falls on the day when I'll have DD and the next day too. So not sure what to do, I think it'd be nice if we did something together since DD would want to sing happy bday to mom.

Didn't we already cover this last week? LOL. Perhaps you could help D call her mom on her b-day and sing to her over the phone. Without you singing. And help her make a card, remember?

2. April has started and I usually write W a check to cover a few bills (which she obviously wants me to pay for now and that's fine) and some extra money for her to have. I'm not sure if I should or shouldn't write her that check. In a way I don't if she's decided to leave against my wishes are her issues really my responsibility? but in a way I do because she probably has more expenses being on her own?

Eek, not sure what to say here. Do you have some kind of agreement with her? Do you have an idea how much unemployment she gets and what rent costs? That might help you figure whether she needs money. And yes, she did decide to leave- like my H, maybe she didn't think through all the consequences before they announced they wanted to S.

3. At times I wonder if I should invite her to do something with DD, even just a dinner like we used to since DD never sees us together anymore - well that's kinda what STBXW wanted so she didn't see us 'fighthing all the time'. So I guess that answers that question but it's so sad because I'm sure DD just wants us to be back together. She even tells strangers at the park etc how she lives at her mommy's house for 2 days and then her daddy's house snd how mommy doesn't live together. Almost like she wants someone to reassure her that it'll be ok and mommy will be back. It's heart breaking.

Do you have an IC? I plan to ask mine at some point on how to deal with the child thing. I'm sure there are some books on it too. I don't know about the getting together just for the sake of it- at this age she might take that as a sign you're getting back together and be confused. But I think for "events" and holidays, etc. it would be nice for her.

Hope you're doing something non-chore-like tonight!