Does MWD actually believe that Ostrich City is a good idea??
Pretty much. That's the problem I have with the DB approach. MWD and my DB coach told me not to address the A at all--absolutely no mention. That just enables cake eating and erodes self esteem.
MWD does recommend finding out as much as you can about what needs the OP is meeting for your WAS. How do you do that without snooping to some degree?
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g