I think you are right about too much interaction. It is hard to find a balance. Me and my H have talked about how we don't have a connection right now..and well..we cannot really connect if we dont spend time together or talk..so what am I to do? But if he isn't ready to let go of his connection OW and put effort into forming a connection with his W..it is like trying to stick a square peg in a round hole.
The problem is that you're trying to piece without knowing for certain that H has stopped seeing OW. IMO, you shouldn't worry about your connection with H unless and until he proves that 1) he no longer has any contact with OW and 2) he is fully committed to working on your M because he wants to be with you. Otherwise you're wasting your time and effort on someone who is only half-assing it.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
