Onward and Forward. I think it will be a good day when I just AM, without thinking of how H might take what I say or do. Need to take back that power I've inadvertently given him over my emotions!
It takes time doesn't it...this is my challenge as well...I still try to please HIM over "what's good for me" at times...how stupid is that...
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
KJ - Hope you are able to get to that point soon, where you don't think about what you say and do in terms of your H. He certainly doesn't sound like he is being very rational right now.
Hi KJ- Yes, the Rebuilding class will help you process so much; I'm really glad you signed up. There will be a person from my class, Nancy who is volunteering...she's terrific.
So sorry for all this in your life. Keep moving forward and on to you new life.
Hope to meet in person soon!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Hi GG- Went to the first class tonight and I think Nancy was one of the volunteers whi spoke a few times-there were quite a few volunteers from the same class(I think last session).
Feel good about it and am looking forward to getting past the grief/anger I've been feeling.
Easter was weird/fun/new... Hid the eggs this morning before the girls got up. H and I always used t fill the eggs and hide them together so he weird part was doing it all alone. Even though they are "teens" this is the one thing they both said they wanted to still do for Easter...
We had a nice breakfast and I had fun watching them find the eggs in our new home and we all had a good time reminiscing about when they were little. Had my mom over for lunch then the girls went to a movie with their father.
Nice day.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
Glad you had a nice day! Last year was the first time I was doing the whole Easter egg hiding/Easter basket thing by myself and it was hard. Still, all these things, once you have done them and survived, it does get easier.
I hope the rebuilding class is helpful. Being able to move past those negative feelings would be so good!
Might be something in this class for you..seems like there are people in all phases of relationships, separated, divorced, divorcing, mourning the loss of the old relationship/evaluating the relatonship... seems like there's alot to work through and get out of this group class. Lots of support.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
The rebuilding class holds something for everyone; I got so much out of it. I feel like I have a whole new family of support now! You'll have to keep me informed as to how you like it. There will be lots of opportunities to get together with the other members of your class. I didn't really feel like going out so I didn't do much of that and I wish I had. Just a thought....
Sounds like you had a wonderful Easter and the weather was beautiful, wasn't it? Glad you continued the Easter egg *hunt* for your girls.
Have a great day!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
