Learning of this porn addiction and the upset of the past few months has really affected her.
She said she saw me in the 1st year, and has known ever since it hadn't stopped. So this isn't new. What is new is that she expected that once I told her I would quit cold turkey. I couldn't. And shutting off the internet...we have many unsecured wi-fi connections around us, so my only defense is learning to control my needs while getting help to deal with 'brain chemistry' issues.
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1. You must ask her if she has a plan (I know that when I was a nurse I was thought this an important thing to ask b/c it shows how serious a person is in their intent.
I agree. She has said it before, and I haven't been able to get her to see IC about it. This time, she had a semi-plan, so I insisted today (after suggesting yesterday) that she talks to her IC during her appt on Wed. Had this been the first time she's made those illusions, I would have called a hotline. I think her fear of God is getting to her, so I'm going to just push for the IC. Having toddlers when she's overprotective helps - not many dangers here! Realistically, I think she loves them too much to do it, but no one knows what a depressed person could do.
Part of the problem is her family - her sister & nephew just got to NY in Jan, and her husband (a**) decided to send her and their son back to her country overseas because he lost his job and God forbid he'd go on welfare.
When she feels she is leaving, she feels fine. It is when she thinks about staying she is depressed. Depressing, huh?
