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keep up with the 180s. i completely understand how one conversation makes you want to continue the conversations and so on... but be strong! (Do as I say and not as I do)...

I must say that every time i am extra nice and back off and have NC, he shows some sort of interest. Some say its abuse? not sure how to take it? or is it him accepting that i am accepting the situation?

well sounds like it helped to talk about the finances... it is important and hopefully ill help you rest a bit more and get ready for the baby!