Man I feel for you. My own jealousy would have me doing something completely stupid at that point. Im not as srong as you are. In fact I probably should not even be answering your question since Im not qualified by any stretch. But I will anyway.

Now you have to ask yourself. What would exposing the affair accomplish for you since you are set on getting the D finalised and over with?

Me:48
W:55
M:22
T:23
Bomb:19Nov09
S:15Jan10
D:11Feb10
EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10
Fast track to her divorcing me