Are you talking with one of the DB counselors on the phone? If not, you should. If you don't want your marriage to end and you've still got a little fight left in you, then don't give up now. He hasn't moved out yet so you're not without options. Stop lying on the bills... spend the money on the DB coach and be honest about it with him. Stop saying you're sorry and start by showing him. Actions speak louder than words. Pain beats out regret every day of the week and twice on Sundays.
When you are happy as an individual, you are in a better position to determine whether a partner enhances your happy life or weighs it down.
