although 25, even though what happened happened...I don't see any loss she is feeling from his actions.

I do know that what you said is right, and I would agree with the 2 years thing. I have a friend who went 1 year two different times w/o crack (and this girl hates having the problem and is not a consistent user, just uses once in a while and it wrecks her life temporarily) so I think 2 years is a good time frame, and like you said, it is still an addict, but recovering. it is a lifetime of making different choices.

SO2, how did you feel when he didn't show up? I sensed that you were not emotional about that, and it didn't really matter. and that's good.

I hope you continue to stay strong with him, and keep those healthy boundaries with him.

it is sad that he can't acknowledge his problem. it may be a very long time before he does.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."